First, you need to be able to recognize the signs that the person you are dating has BPD.
Extreme highs and lows are the hallmark of a relationship with someone who has BPD.
You think to yourself; "gee, if they're so revealing about themselves, maybe it's okay for During this relationship, you navigated exquisite ups and devastating downs.
If he or she acted lovingly, you started trusting that you were lovable.
This is counterproductive, and stopping it with effective new tools can be learned., so you can learn from mistakes you've made along the way, and not repeat them.
It is not useful while you're trying to mend from any sort of upset or trauma!
In a relationship with a person suffering with the traits of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) these extreme highs and lows are commonplace.
It keeps you from staying with Your feelings, respecting them, and getting to the other side of that struggle.
Basically, your poor brain gets trapped in playing both sides of that net, which doesn't work in tennis-- leave you with toxic shame.
Borderlines have an uncanny ability to get you to open-up, be vulnerable and trust them.
You generally feel pretty safe at the beginning--which may be because they're so frank with you, due to their lack of boundaries!
In the most troubled of relationships, it is not unusual for a “BPD” partner to abandon the relationship or do something so hurtful that you cannot continue.