Editor’s Note: Eliza Romero is a Baltimore-based, Filipino-American fashion photographer and style blogger behind the website Aesthetic Distance, a blog critical of pop culture.The views expressed in this piece are solely her own.With this in mind, what are you planning on doing differently to find love in 2016? You've been on a couple of great dates, there's chemistry, banter and regular communication.Things are going well but then out of the blue the calls stop and texts start to tail off.
When I received messages from other people of colour, they didn’t even mention anything about the fact that I was Asian.
Even for a married woman to go out with a male friend who is single: I often travel to Paris by myself, Leyla and Olivier stay in Paimpol, and have dinner with one (or several) of our good male friend(s), single or not.
Olivier trusts me, and we both trust our friend(s), who would never make a pass at me.
I’m also noticing a pattern from the women that post about it.
Every time an Asian woman complains that only white guys want to date her and that white guys fetishize Asian women, it usually turns out that she herself has only dated white guys. You can go ahead and say it’s ok for these women to have a preference but what about the guys? Asian women experience a much greater amount of privilege in a white-dominated society than Asian men, specifically lighter-skinned East Asian women. Asian women have been societally influenced to think that white men are more attractive than Asian men because Western media has emasculated Asian men. Asian women just don’t want to admit that they have a white guy fetish so they put the blame on the dudes.
As my boyfriend (who is a white male himself) puts it, “Every white guy wants to have sex with an Asian girl, but not all of them want to date one.” We all know the popular slang term “yellow fever”, which describes a (usually) white male who fetishizes Asian women.