There’s a plethora of dating apps out there, and they all try to differentiate themselves from each other, and some manage to do that, but when it comes down to it, they all do the same thing: replicate the already terrible process of finding a date in real life.
Some though, do it better than most, and some hookup apps target different segments of the dating market; there are apps for finding people to hook up with, apps for long term relationships, and apps for those looking for semi-casual, short-term dating. Here are the three apps for every type of relationship: Pure, Coffee Meets Bagel, and Tinder.
If your single status has left you feeling sexually deprived and the prospect of adding another vibrator or adult movie to your collection bores you, maybe it’s time to explore your options.
A friends-with-benefits arrangement can leave you satisfied, glowing and happy (which certainly beats frustrated and prone to overeating in front of your television set.) Before settling down with my Love King, I had my share of Friends with Benefits (FWB’s for short! I learned, through trial and error, that there’s a right way and a wrong way to go about having this kind of relationship.
You basically send out a signal that you want to go to bangville, pronto, and get to choose who you go to bangville with (among the people who want to go to bangville with you). The awesome part about Pure is that it doesn’t want anyone else to know about who you’re hooking up with; Pure encrypts every message you send in-app, son! Even your failed attempts to hookup are hush-hush: if no one responds to your post after sixty minutes, the post is deleted forever, like nothing ever happened. It’s an app that knows you hate strangers, so it recommends you date people who are friends of people you know - specifically, your Facebook friends.
Finding random strangers to date on other apps or sites can be intimidating and just horrible experiences in general, and CMB wants to solve that problem.
(A note to wanna be pick up artists or PUAs – being a good pick up artist takes a Hell of a lot of work, and even then many pick up artists end up lonely and not able to relate to women properly.
Pure’s goal is to get you laid within the hour, and if you don’t do anything dumb, you should get laid within the hour.
The next morning (or even that night) come the recriminations: Was it wrong to give that person the sexual green light when you had no intention of rekindling the emotional side of the relationship?
Marilyn, a 57-year-old single colleague of mine, recently reconnected with someone she had worked with many years ago. "No," Marilyn said with a laugh, "it's better than that: I'm in like with him — and that's exactly where I want to be." She further confided that they planned to make their reunions "a regular thing — if four times a year can be called 'regular.' But I think that's about all I really want." Marilyn's casual approach to maintaining a friendship with benefits typifies the mindset of older folks who have reconciled themselves to having "great fun" even if it's "just one of those things." And episodic pleasure-seeking may be more common than you think: In The Normal Bar, a book I wrote last year with Chrisanna Northrup and James Witte, we reported that 61 percent of female survey respondents who had partners fantasized about someone they had met.
They are your safest bet because you can trust them.
The problem, however, is that when you engage in sexual relations with a friend, it can end badly when you start to develop feelings for each other.
Here’s how it works; you sign in, and create a profile that’s basically just a selfie, and after that your mission is to find someone near you who wants to hookup.