Often this has to do with gender roles, but all mom sees is that at her house she’s doing all the work while at yours you’re taking care of the kids and dad “” 8.
Now that you’ve come along, dad is asking for more parenting time.
So here is a list of the most common reasons your husband’s ex acts like she hates you. She doesn’t hate you, she hates what you represent: The failure of her marriage, the break up of her family, the woman her ex-husband became a better man for, the fear that she might have ruined her child’s life by not being able to make the marriage work. She’s afraid her kids will love you more than they love her. This could include showing up at a parent-teacher conference, forcing the kids to call you mom (yes, that does actually happen), calling the kids “mine,” posting pictures of the kids on your Facebook page, trying to co-parent with her by responding to messages sent to your husband, etc… She perceives you as overstepping boundaries by participating in events she believes are reserved for “mom” and participating in events not only reserved for mom, but that are “firsts.” These might include: taking your stepdaughter to buy her first bra or getting her first haircut; participating in any sort of cosmetic experience (hair color/new hair style/ mani-pedi day); talking to her about the birds and the bees; painting her nails or coloring/cutting her hair the way like it or similar to yours (even if your step is a teen and she requests this, it could still push mom’s buttons). For a long time she could just ignore the painful feelings that accompany divorce. She may even be remarried, but never actually grieved the loss of her marriage and family. When she looks at your strengths, all she sees are her weaknesses.
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